Recently a co-worker complimented me on bouncing back so quickly after giving birth. Are you one of those supermoms?, he smiled. I laughed gingerly. If only he could see me this morning, running around, my husband and I trading morning chores, me kissing my daughter goodbye and hugging our beagle, telling them all I would see them later, feeling awful about leaving.
The whole notion of balancing it all is an illusion, created by savvy marketers. As I blog, I am nursing my daughter (ok, maybe that’s too much info, but I’ll make my point soon:), my hair is still pin curled; There is filing to do in the home office, and laundry is constant. I am convinced clothes grow in the hamper! I am balancing two things, while the rest are waiting to be completed, items on an ever expanding to do list.
No one, even the most celebrated among us, balances it all, all the time. Something will fall off the list. And you know what? That’s ok.
Our expectations must change, we have to be gentle and forgive ourselves, asPema Chödrön, the Buddhist writer and nun notes in When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times: “The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
Release the desire to balance it all (easier said than done I know), and awaken to each moment, they are fleeting and beautiful, no two are identical.