God has a sense of humor. I’m convinced! Here I am contemplating the notion of reclaiming space as a new Mom, with a full time career, graduate school and weekly blogging schedule. Who told me I should I even consider space? What? She gets a moment to herself?
Yet space is critical to personal growth, peace and joy. If we allow those around us to obliterate our physical, mental and spiritual space with their demands, eventually bitterness and resentment arise within us.
Saying no is liberating, particularly in an age of frequent communication from social media, email and text messages; everything, it seems, demands our full attention; instant responses to questions and concerns are not only desired, they are expected. “Didn’t you see my text from two minutes ago?” “Are you upset with me?” “I didn’t hear back?” Sound familiar?
Yes is infinitely easier because many of us are addicted to people pleasing, convinced our self worth is linked with other’s perceptions. How often do you check to see if someone liked your status on Facebook or is following you on Twitter? Increasingly, our culture fosters a constant need of approval from others. Yet small step by small step, day by day, we must reaffirm our worth by embracing the courage to say no.
Unplug it all from time to time! Turn off your cell phone, step away from the computer, and breath. Begin to become clear about your priorities. Does your family take precedence in this moment? Return your friend’s call after tending to your own household matters.
My recent conversation with a friend reiterated this lesson of self love. Reclaiming space is not selfish, it’s a necessary element to evolving into a whole and free human being. Our responsibilities no longer control us, we prioritize, and again begin by saying one word: NO.
Live In Color – Emelda