Black Women Rock Blonde Hair

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Mother, wife, sister, friend, writer / blogger / creative organizer, budding photographer... These are just a few of the many hats I juggle each day. I believe creativity is oxygen for the soul. I created Live In Color blog to celebrate the beauty in every moment, from faith to inspiration and motherhood.And it is soon becoming Pray with Our Feet blog which will focus on the intersection of faith and activism. Follow the inspiration on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/praywithourfeetblog/
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Author and Performance Artist, Shannon-Eli Braxton

SPOILER ALERT!!!!!!

I’m dying my hair and I’m thinking about going blonde.

Wait! Are those BOOs I hear?!

OMG, are those protest signs I see? Did someone just call the Black Panther Party on me?! I can hear a loud chant,  “My sistah you are not white. Raise your self-esteem black woman. Just say no to blonde!”

OH NO! Someone in the crowd is saying that I made an appointment to bleach my skin. Someone else is saying that it’s all because I went to an all white school. Whaaaat, OMG?! Did you hear that?!? One man just shouted that I only date white girls and I think all black women are ugly!!!

SHUT UP! SHUT THE !@#% UP!

Nothing is wrong with my self esteem, and I love being black. I just want a new fresh look. For all those who think blonde hair is reserved for white women only, please scroll below. These children of African decent live in New Guinea, and I doubt they have ever used a box of Loreal.
Yup, it’s natural and now that I think about it, my hair turns a rusty red when I spend lots of time in the sun, too.

Plus, I can attest that blondes do have more fun. This won’t be my first time lightening my locs. Check back in a few weeks to approve or disapprove of my new look!

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Here are some of my favorite celebrities. Just more proof that blonde hair looks good on us too!

SuperModel, Naomi Campbell
SuperModel, Naomi Campbell
Actress, Keke Palmer
Actress, Keke Palmer
Model and Actress, Eva "Diva"
Model and Actress, Eva “Diva”
TV Producer, Talk Show Host, Singer and Actress, Tamar Braxton-Herbert
TV Producer, Talk Show Host, Singer and Actress, Tamar Braxton-Herbert
Songwriter and Singer, Chrisette Michele
Songwriter and Singer, Chrisette Michele
The Queen B, Beyonce Knowles-Carter
The Queen B, Beyoncé Knowles-Carter

 

Singer and Actress, The Victorious and (yes I'm bias) sexiest singer of all time, Toni  Braxton
Singer and Actress, The Victorious and (yes I’m bias) sexiest singer of all time, Ms. Toni Braxton

Live in COLOR! – Shannon

What Judging my Hair Says about You

Emelda De Coteau
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Emelda De Coteau

Mother, wife, sister, friend, writer / blogger / creative organizer, budding photographer... These are just a few of the many hats I juggle each day. I believe creativity is oxygen for the soul. I created Live In Color blog to celebrate the beauty in every moment, from faith to inspiration and motherhood.And it is soon becoming Pray with Our Feet blog which will focus on the intersection of faith and activism. Follow the inspiration on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/praywithourfeetblog/
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Photo credit: Carrie Mae Weems

“I will not have my life narrowed down. I will not bow down to somebody else’s whim or to someone else’s ignorance.”

 bell hooks

If you are a woman of color, no matter how you style your hair, someone will be offended. Rock a perm? You have no idea who you are. Love your weaves? Well, you just don’t love your hair. Embrace your natural hair texture? Some women and men of color label it as unattractive. Everyone, it seems, has an opinion on women of color and our hair.

This topic remains a staple in conversations with my girlfriends, Mom, co-workers, and of course at beauty salons across America, and no doubt, around the world. Countless books by renowned authors such as bell hooks, and profound visual artists like Carrie Mae Weems address how beauty for women of color is defined in a Eurocenteric and patriarchal culture.

The Afrocentric among us view loving our natural hair as a panacea to the lack of self love. If we begin by understanding history, and reject the chains of self hatred, we can change so much in our community, they proclaim.

Folks on the other side of the argument articulate, at times, a kind of historical amnesia. It’s just hair, they scream. How I choose to wear my hair has little to do with white supremacy, racism, capitalism, or any other ism. This of course ignores the real impact of colonization on the collective psyches of people of color.

Still, for me, both of these perceptions are somewhat limited; human nature and our view of ourselves is richly complex with multiple layers. Any kind of fundamentalism, which by its nature must define one or several kinds of behaviors as wrong, limits our humanity and freedom to empathize with others.

When you place me in a box, because I do not adhere to your myopic definition of beauty or self acceptance, you speak volumes about yourself, and a need to define an “other” as inferior to your “enlightened state.”

We are all on a journey of self love, whether you are walking along that road with an Afro or weave, it remains a journey none the less. My way is not your way, but why is that wrong? Rants never produce more understanding, only greater division.

Live In Color – Emelda

Photo Credit: Emelda  De Coteau
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De Coteau