#1 Tip to Control Your Thoughts

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Up until a week ago, I literally wanted to hang up when family and friends advised me to, “Just think positive.” Oprah, Iyanla Vanzant, Joel Osteen, all of them were truly getting on my nerves. “THINK POSITIVE?! Are you kidding me? YOU try to think positive when all you’ve had is disappointment and setbacks.”

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So, when my best friend-cousin called to chat about life’s problems, I MUST have been channeling someone other than myself, or maybe the wise “Buddha Shannon” who I doubted was still alive.

I also have to thank John Randolph Price for his magical offering, The Abundance Book. I started it again, for the third time, ten days ago… and guess what folks ? I’m thinking positive! Yup, me, the girl who wanted to marry Oscar the Grouch.

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But back to my conversation with best friend-cousin, Tee. “Tee”, I said. “What if for every positive thought we think, someone gives us $50? And for every negative thought, the same person takes $50 away. I don’t know about you but I would try to make several million in just one day!”

So, that’s what I’ve been doing! When I wake up in the morning, I tell myself, “Self, let’s make some money today.” I imagine that instantly I get $50 for each positive thought. And each time I’m having a negative thought, I quickly try to change it around so I don’t loose a whole $50.

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This might sound silly but I promise you it’s been working all week! Last night when I went to bed, I was overcome by joy. It was a bliss that was supernatural. As for my mental bank account, I add $50 bills all day. As a matter of fact, I just added another one by pausing to think about how much I love the color green.  CHA-CHING!

I hear your question, “Is this really going to manifest into tangible money and the life of my dreams”? All I can say is that I surely do hope so.

I’ll keep you posted.

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LIVE IN COLOR! – Shannon

 

 

Watch Your Words

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“The tongue has the power of life and death…”
Proverbs 18:21

Words carry immense power. What you and I say to ourselves and others matters; it shapes our perceptions, and in turn realities.  Day by day, moment by moment, this principle becomes clearer in many ways.

Shannon (Live In Color blog co-editor) and I spoke recently about the weightiness of words. “You know Mel,” she said squarely, “we are word people. We really are.” When you are a lover of words, you are constantly wrestling with what you say, and taking in what others say.

Several years ago my husband and I sat in a crowded  auditorium, my niece’s excitement bubbled over; she pointed out her favorite Disney characters gliding across the ice. “Look Uncle Keston,” she exclaimed, grabbing hold of his hand. “Look!”

We smiled,  perhaps remembering how easily joy comes to us in childhood. And then, abruptly, another voice interrupted. “Shut up, you ugly little b*#%.” I turned around to see a young woman pulling at her toddler, hurling insults and laughing; Silently I wept for the little girl, her face, what I could make out of it in the dimness, filled with confusion and sadness. Her eyes seemed to whisper, “Why are you so angry?”

On days when I hear someone being particularly cruel, spewing vitriol and hatred, I am reminded of those incidents, and the lesson. Words impact us all. Forget that old-school rhyme:”Sticks and stones break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”

Grasping the enormity of what one says is deeply connected to awareness, stillness, sitting with your words after you say them. We can hinder or heal, empower or eviscerate the spirit of another living being.  Choose to use them in service of love and respect.

Two Ways to Watch Your Words:

1. Empathize – Yes, it sounds like a no brainier, but empathy helps us see the world compassionately. How do you like someone to speak to you? Do you enjoy being cut off, your words and thoughts discounted? None of us does, so consider that when communicating with others. We begin to see others perspectives, and our word choice reflects it.

2. Speak Solutions – Like most of us dealing with frustrations, I am guilty of saying, “I’m so sick of…” or “I’m tired of…” in an effort to relieve the tension. Lately, I am turning these words around and focusing on what I want to expand.  So, if you are tired of a particular situation,  focus instead on your solution.

Live In COLOR! – Emelda

How do you watch your words? Is it a struggle for you? Share with us!

 

Why Our Friendships Matter

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“Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”
John 15:13

The other day I rushed to a local cafe to talk with a good girlfriend. For weeks, we tried to catch up; between the both of us we are juggling careers, families, and oh yes,  finding time for ourselves. So, when she texted me, I set aside the time.

As we neared the end of our chat, she said something seemingly innocuous but quite profound. “Let’s set another time to talk, and then get together.” With a sense of urgency, she nudged, “Let’s really do it.” “Yes.” I said, immediately connecting with her point. “Sunday works for me,” I said, and we hung up.

Somewhere amid the weightiness of obligations that become our lives, friendships begin to feel like a luxury. Some nights after putting Naima to sleep, I have chosen the comfort of my bed over returning a friend’s phone call.

My girlfriend’s comments the other day reminded me friendship takes work and commitment – especially at this moment in our lives when loosing ourselves in doing for others is easier.

The deep sense of connection we form with other kindred spirits is vital to our own health. According to a New York Times article, friends can extend our lives. The piece cited this interesting finding. “A 10-year Australian study found that older people with a large circle of friends were 22 percent less likely to die during the study period than those with fewer friends.”

Cicely Tyson and Kerry Washington made headlines recently when they talked over brunch for hours; these two friends, with decades between them, share numerous similarities such as initially pushing against the disapproval of parents to follow their desires to act. As the time together ended, Cicely gently urged Kerry to take care of herself. Her words demonstrating the depth of the two women’s bond.

Yes, friendships matter immensely, and despite obstacles we encounter with maintaining them, holding on is crucial. So, call your friends, cherish them, these relationships nurture us at our core, teaching love, growth and empathy.

Live In Color! – Emelda

Tell us about your friendships! Is it a struggle to hold on to some? How do you stay connected?