Blog Chat: Cultivating Self Love with Shan, The Free Gurl Club

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Mother, wife, sister, friend, writer / blogger / creative organizer, budding photographer... These are just a few of the many hats I juggle each day. I believe creativity is oxygen for the soul. I created Live In Color blog to celebrate the beauty in every moment, from faith to inspiration and motherhood.And it is soon becoming Pray with Our Feet blog which will focus on the intersection of faith and activism. Follow the inspiration on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/praywithourfeetblog/
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Every other month, Shan and I are going to dish all things inspiration in our  blog chats. 

This month seemed fitting to explore love, especially  self love, as we are often taught, particularly women, to love everyone but ourselves. 

Shan and I are both on paths of healing, love and discovery. We are seeking to honor the light within ourselves, and want those same feelings to manifest for everyone, especially women.

Shan is the creator of The Free Gurl Club, an awesome online space dedicated to empowering women. She hosts a weekly show on YouTube and shares life affirming daily affirmations via Instagram

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Listen to today’s blog chat on Soundcloud. Tomorrow we’ll share on YouTube.

Audio editing by Keystone Productions

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Check out our show notes (including 3 core ways to cultivate self love – listed below first), followed by links to books and other resources we mention: 

1. Make healing yourself (from wounds, past experiences, etc.) a priority! This could be tied to your faith (for me it’s inextricably linked) and include daily and / or frequent time alone (5-10 min.) for reflection. Even if you its initially one minute alone, begin there!  

2.  Post positive self affirmations around your home and work space, or even on your phone. Say them aloud throughout the day.  These may include statements like “I am beautiful. I am worth the life I seek. I am created in the image of God and my life matters. Abundance and joy are my birthrights.” 

Check out this powerful daily affirmation from The Free Gurl Club:

   

3.  Say NO to what drains and depletes you as these people, places and / or choices are creating feelings of being overwhelmed. 

When we are overwhelmed,  we often self medicate in unhealthy ways – excessive drinking, working long hours, overeating, etc. 

  

Further Reading:

Salvation: Black People and Love by bell hooks 

Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You’re Going Through by Iyanla Vanzant 

Imagine Being More Afraid of Freedom Than Slavery by Pamela Sneed 

Commanding Your Morning by Cindy Trimm

Adalmar Life by Nellie Russell (insightful blog) and piece on the importance of self care and healing. Nellie is one of my blogging besties!  

 

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightment by Eckhart Tolle  

The Audre Lorde quote I referenced on self care. You might also enjoy this blog post about Audre and her intellectual work.

    

How One Photo Quietly Says Black Lives Matter

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Photo Credit : Gordon Parks

Eloquent resistance. These two words somersault in my mind as I study Gordon Parks deceptively simple photographic portrayal of a mother and her daughter in segregated America, circa 1955.

In her own way, this striking and elegant woman refutes the American narrative about people of color – illiterate and undignified.

She and her daughter stand in subtle defiance, shattering  long  held  assumptions about black women and girls – unfeminine, ugly, and invisible.

Despite living under legal segregation, they assert, with their bodies, we refuse your vulgar categorizations.

We are here. We will not cower under the weight of hatred. We matter immensely.

This is the essence of  today’s Black Lives Matter movement; the right to simply exist, beyond the barriers of hatred and fear, because at the core, even within our differences, there lies a shared humanity.

When we refuse to see one another, genuinely see another person, we extinguish ourselves, our own light. If I tell you your life does not matter, I run from myself, constructing an identity that is married to your pain, struggle and subjugation.

Let us come to realize not only our own worth, but the value of other black lives and experiences who are marginalized, creating a world where no voice is silenced.

Inspiration For Your Ears: Mama Power,  Building Your Brand & Self Acceptance

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I spend lots of time listening to inspirational content. Do you know what I love even more? Sharing it with you, lovelies! 

Here’s my weekly round up:  

Travis Greene’s uplifting song, “Intentional”  about how God brings forth beauty, working all things out for our good, will have you pressing repeat. My baby girl Nai and I rock out to it everyday! 

As Mamas, taking care of ourselves often comes last, but it doesn’t have to be that way. This awesome podcast from MOMentity breaks it all down.

My bestie Shan, creator of The Free Gurl Club, has an awesome  YouTube show. This week she unpacked self acceptance and love. It’s all about celebrating you, and realizing you are enough! 

Abiola is the truth! The writer / speaker / go-to-lady for empowering yourself has an awesome talk on getting clear about your brand and what you have to offer.