Two Life Lessons from my Toddler

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Mother, wife, sister, friend, writer / blogger / creative organizer, budding photographer... These are just a few of the many hats I juggle each day. I believe creativity is oxygen for the soul. I created Live In Color blog to celebrate the beauty in every moment, from faith to inspiration and motherhood.And it is soon becoming Pray with Our Feet blog which will focus on the intersection of faith and activism. Follow the inspiration on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/praywithourfeetblog/
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Naima De Coteau Photo Credit: Emelda De Coteau
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Naima is an avid explorer. Even in the womb, this girl moved with agile determination. She enjoys a good swing or sliding board as much as the next toddler, but also likes walking through the park, picking up flowers, digging for rocks and climbing into trees.

A few weeks ago she layed down in the grass, gazed toward the placid indigo sky and smiled. Not a tepid smile either; one filled with the kind of innocence we see in children, before the world has convinced them to hold fast to reality and stop dreaming  Her quiet exuberance is contagious.

Oh, what lessons she taught me in 2 minutes:

1. Stop expecting and start experiencing.

Hitting the park together does not mean staying on the swings, or sliding board, Mom. There is a world beyond what I “should do,” and I intend to embrace it.

What kind of lives would you and I lead if we turned away from the “should” syndrome? This tendency towards compartmentalizing expectations for our kids goes beyond them and impacts other areas of life, too.

How often are we frustrated because partners, friends, or family members defy our expectations, choosing a path we do not approve? It’s difficult, this pulling back, but there is freedom in releasing the need to control. Every day, I am learning this lesson.

2. Slow down, and enjoy.

We live in the era of multitasking on speed. Everyone, everywhere is busy, all the time. Between floods of emails and navigating social media, our minds move incessantly. Being still is a lost art. It’s not lazy, this desire for tranquility, I promise you all, those times heal us in numerous ways.

In those few moments, lying next to Naima, I absorbed the natural beauty of birds, their rhythmic songs. Oh what lovely sounds.

While my pre-kid life included random meditation (when I could sit still! Ha! ) and walks around the track, headphones were never far away. Reflecting back on those days,  I missed so much.

When you and I are open, the lessons come to us in many forms. These days, mine are often taught by our spirited three-year-old who is determined to help Mommy see life with different eyes.

What lessons do your kids teach you?

Life Lessons, Lupita Nyong’o and Dancing In The Rain (Inspirational Links! )

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Emelda De Coteau

Mother, wife, sister, friend, writer / blogger / creative organizer, budding photographer... These are just a few of the many hats I juggle each day. I believe creativity is oxygen for the soul. I created Live In Color blog to celebrate the beauty in every moment, from faith to inspiration and motherhood.And it is soon becoming Pray with Our Feet blog which will focus on the intersection of faith and activism. Follow the inspiration on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/praywithourfeetblog/
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Actress Lupita Nyong’o accepts the Best Performance by an Actress in a Supporting Role award for ’12 Years a Slave’. (Photo by Kevin Winter/Getty Images)

Last night when the news broke about Lupita Nyong’o’s Oscar win, I nearly cried. As she spoke, I thought of all those mahogany hued sisters rendered nearly invisible by white supremacy, colorism and our own collective self hatred.

Those simple yet profound words of hope resonate so deeply with me:
“When I look down at this golden statue, may it remind me and every little child that no matter where you’re from, your dreams are valid. Thank you.” Oh what a way to begin the week!

There is so much dynamic writing and music online about empowerment (our inspirational word of the month), awareness, life lessons and dancing in the rain. I hope you’ll enjoy reading these pieces, too!

On Changing Dreams

Re-Learning to Dance In The Rain

Fear is the Root of Your Problems

What’s Wrong With Telling A Little Girl She’s Pretty?

Pictures of people who mock me

Live In Color! – Emelda

Celeb Style Spotlight: Actress Lupita Nyong’o

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Mother, wife, sister, friend, writer / blogger / creative organizer, budding photographer... These are just a few of the many hats I juggle each day. I believe creativity is oxygen for the soul. I created Live In Color blog to celebrate the beauty in every moment, from faith to inspiration and motherhood.And it is soon becoming Pray with Our Feet blog which will focus on the intersection of faith and activism. Follow the inspiration on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/praywithourfeetblog/
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Hollywood often rejects brown women, especially darker ones. Even in the era of Scandal, a popular television series starring Kerry Washington, actresses of African descent remain largely invisible to mainstream culture. Before Scandal, the last television show with an African-American woman lead was Julia (starring Diahann Carroll), nearly forty years ago.

Perhaps it’s why seeing beautiful 30-year-old Kenyan native Lupita Nyong’o work the red carpet is refreshing. After listening to her on The Tavis Smiley Show several months ago discussuing her role in “12 Years a Slave,” and reading articles, I have decided she is an anomaly in Hollywood – humble and gracious.

Yes, the fabulous stylist, Micaela Erlanger, coordinates many of these looks, but Nyong’o emanates a kind of quiet and timeless elegance. Bold colors and clean lines compliment her rich mahogany complexion. Take a peak at some of the exquisite ensembles catching my eye, from a recent feature in this month’s Vogue  (photo above) to the red carpet: 

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