I Cannot be Available to Everyone, Every Minute of Every Day, and it’s OK 

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Mother, wife, sister, friend, writer / blogger / creative organizer, budding photographer... These are just a few of the many hats I juggle each day. I believe creativity is oxygen for the soul. I created Live In Color blog to celebrate the beauty in every moment, from faith to inspiration and motherhood.And it is soon becoming Pray with Our Feet blog which will focus on the intersection of faith and activism. Follow the inspiration on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/praywithourfeetblog/
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People expect our constant availability – phone, text, social media and email. Technology has birthed a culture grounded in a constant stream of endless obligatory chatter.

What happens when you seek quiet instead of IG, FB and Twitter feeds? Or if you decide you’re not interested in following the “behind- the-scenes look” at someone else’s life on Snapchat. You simply want to stand in your present moment, phone on the charger, or off all together for a while. Can we just be, y’all? Geez!

Apparently, this whole revolutionary non-available concept is irritating to some people. Last week I found myself in a back-and-forth exchange via Facebook which started because a new friend called me, and I didn’t answer the phone.

My momentary inaccessibility became interrupted as rude and callous, instead of an opportunity for them to pause and see it from another angle – maybe, just maybe, I was unavailable for numerous reasons. Nai and I were actually playing together in the backyard, bathing our cocoa brown skin in the emerging summer sunlight, lying in newly planted grass, our laughter overflowing, making a mundane weekday joyful.

I’m not a fan of distracted-parenting so I rarely engage in long convos with friends when homeschooling, reading or just hanging with our little Nai. Our moments together are precious.

The whole incident is causing me to reflect quite a bit on this rapid  “communication” evolution, and the impact it’s having on our personalities and ways of being with one another. Impatience is the new normal. And for far too many of us, instant gratification also means instant access to people. If we cannot have it,  we pout like toddlers insisting on their favorite snacks instead of dinner.

The concept of boundaries is somehow foreign to us, especially younger generations who have never known a world where you do not have multiple ways of reaching someone, any time of the day or night.

I am dating myself here, y’all, but I actually remember, as a kid, when very few people carried cell phones. If you weren’t home, you weren’t available. Folks connected with each other when it worked for both of them. You didn’t feel pressure to talk, and reply to incessant text messages and social media updates.

The act of cultivating genuine friendships is quickly being replaced with a vapid practice of familiarizing ourselves with people’s lives (an edited version of course) via social media, calling them friends, and then basing their value upon how often they comment, like or share our own thoughts. This isn’t friendship, it’s forced interaction and brazen selfishness.

I don’t know about you, but I am done with feeling bound by other people’s expectations of me, their pseudo ideas of friendship. If I don’t have another IG heart, or like on a post, I will survive. My soul is yearning for so much more these days, you know authentic and lasting connections based on understanding and love, not the thorny entanglement of ego. Our time is far too fleeting and miraculous to be squandered.

Talk to Me: 

Do you feel guilty if you’re not able to connect with someone right away? Why do you think so? How can you move beyond those feelings? 

3 Easy Toddler Activities For Indoor Play

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Our Nai having fun at Port Discovery Children’s Museum Photo Credit: Emelda De Coteau

Any Mama with a toddler knows our kiddos need variety! And being stuck in the house during a major blizzard – bye Jonas – doesn’t help. 

But if we’ve learned anything over this past week in my house, it’s creative play to the rescue. 


Here are a few of our favorite snow day / cold weather activities:


Finger Painting  & Water Colors – 
Most kids love to make stuff, and get their hands dirty, right? Break out the finger paints and water colors. 

You can use this activity to teach your kiddo how to identify a variety of colors, complete a project from start to finish, and work on a team! 

Nai painting Photo Credit: Emelda De Coteau

Sand Play – Think warm thoughts, right?  

Yes. I say this to myself a lot these days (as this is not my fav. season). Nothing brings summer within reach faster than playing with sand. 

A few weeks ago we headed up to Lakeshore Learning and picked up an awesome sensory sand play set for Nai. This moldable soft sand comes with mini castles and tools so kids can build their own village. 

This is such a fun and low-key way to work on those fine motor skills. You can also buy sand in numerous colors at Lakeshore so this hands-on-activity never becomes old! 

Lakeshore Mold & Play Sensory Sand Set Photo Credit: Emelda De Coteau

Water Play – Grab a small bucket, fill it with water, and let your little one choose which toys should go for a swim! 

You can even add shaving cream in the mix for more of a sensory experience; its another cool way to let kids experiment with touching various textures.  

Nai enjoying water play Photo Credit: Emelda De Coteau

I hope you all are enjoying your little ones this winter! 

What fun activities do you all do when it’s to cold to head out?