Two Life Lessons from my Toddler

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Mother, wife, sister, friend, writer / blogger / creative organizer, budding photographer... These are just a few of the many hats I juggle each day. I believe creativity is oxygen for the soul. I created Live In Color blog to celebrate the beauty in every moment, from faith to inspiration and motherhood.And it is soon becoming Pray with Our Feet blog which will focus on the intersection of faith and activism. Follow the inspiration on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/praywithourfeetblog/
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Naima De Coteau Photo Credit: Emelda De Coteau
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Naima is an avid explorer. Even in the womb, this girl moved with agile determination. She enjoys a good swing or sliding board as much as the next toddler, but also likes walking through the park, picking up flowers, digging for rocks and climbing into trees.

A few weeks ago she layed down in the grass, gazed toward the placid indigo sky and smiled. Not a tepid smile either; one filled with the kind of innocence we see in children, before the world has convinced them to hold fast to reality and stop dreaming  Her quiet exuberance is contagious.

Oh, what lessons she taught me in 2 minutes:

1. Stop expecting and start experiencing.

Hitting the park together does not mean staying on the swings, or sliding board, Mom. There is a world beyond what I “should do,” and I intend to embrace it.

What kind of lives would you and I lead if we turned away from the “should” syndrome? This tendency towards compartmentalizing expectations for our kids goes beyond them and impacts other areas of life, too.

How often are we frustrated because partners, friends, or family members defy our expectations, choosing a path we do not approve? It’s difficult, this pulling back, but there is freedom in releasing the need to control. Every day, I am learning this lesson.

2. Slow down, and enjoy.

We live in the era of multitasking on speed. Everyone, everywhere is busy, all the time. Between floods of emails and navigating social media, our minds move incessantly. Being still is a lost art. It’s not lazy, this desire for tranquility, I promise you all, those times heal us in numerous ways.

In those few moments, lying next to Naima, I absorbed the natural beauty of birds, their rhythmic songs. Oh what lovely sounds.

While my pre-kid life included random meditation (when I could sit still! Ha! ) and walks around the track, headphones were never far away. Reflecting back on those days,  I missed so much.

When you and I are open, the lessons come to us in many forms. These days, mine are often taught by our spirited three-year-old who is determined to help Mommy see life with different eyes.

What lessons do your kids teach you?

Why Some Day is Right Now

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Mother, wife, sister, friend, writer / blogger / creative organizer, budding photographer... These are just a few of the many hats I juggle each day. I believe creativity is oxygen for the soul. I created Live In Color blog to celebrate the beauty in every moment, from faith to inspiration and motherhood.And it is soon becoming Pray with Our Feet blog which will focus on the intersection of faith and activism. Follow the inspiration on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/praywithourfeetblog/
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Time is a seductive mistress; we simultaneously chase minutes, while convincing ourselves there is an abundance of hours. Yet no one is promised the next second or even year. Periodically God reminds you of this inevitable truth subtly.

While scrolling fashion news a few weeks ago, I read about beautiful celebrity stylist and British native Annabel Tollman, found dead at 39 in her apartment. The words seemed to mock me over and over again: “Dead at 39.”

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Fashion industry insiders saw her as an anomaly, a radiant presence whose genuine kindness touched everyone. Tollman once said “Make a fairy tale and go and live in it.” Dreams were urgent, not distant thoughts to bury or ignore.

One can argue Tollman’s obvious advantages (white privilege and beauty) shaped her outlook, but there is wisdom in this witty quote. Someday is not some distant mirage taking shape years from now.

Someday is now, and if we deny the urgency of our dreams and aspirations, we annihilate our legacy and opportunity to illuminate the world around us with our talent and ideas. Make today the day you begin living in the now.

Live In Color – Emelda

 

Frugal Fashionista – Stylin’ on a Budget!

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Mother, wife, sister, friend, writer / blogger / creative organizer, budding photographer... These are just a few of the many hats I juggle each day. I believe creativity is oxygen for the soul. I created Live In Color blog to celebrate the beauty in every moment, from faith to inspiration and motherhood.And it is soon becoming Pray with Our Feet blog which will focus on the intersection of faith and activism. Follow the inspiration on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/praywithourfeetblog/
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Oh those politicians, claiming the recession is ending, but my purse knows the difference. Millions of us deal with student loan debt, and other monthly bills. What’s a girl to do? Throw style to the side? We think not. Become a frugal fashionista! In other words, embracing style doesn’t have to drain your bank account.
Photo Credit: Keston  De Coteau
Photo Credit: Keston
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Millions of women are doing it everyday. Join them! Our co-editor, Shannon-Eli Braxton, shows us how with an eclectic ensemble: valor blazer (Express, $89), pants (Target, $10.99), and oh so stylish black and white checkered shoes by Blake Scott (DSW, $39.00) reminiscent of musical legend Michael Jackson. Please share your budget saving fashion tips with us!
Photo Credit: Keston  De Coteau
Photo Credit: Keston
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Live In Color – Emelda De Coteau