Watch Your Words

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Mother, wife, sister, friend, writer / blogger / creative organizer, budding photographer... These are just a few of the many hats I juggle each day. I believe creativity is oxygen for the soul. I created Live In Color blog to celebrate the beauty in every moment, from faith to inspiration and motherhood.And it is soon becoming Pray with Our Feet blog which will focus on the intersection of faith and activism. Follow the inspiration on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/praywithourfeetblog/
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“The tongue has the power of life and death…”
Proverbs 18:21

Words carry immense power. What you and I say to ourselves and others matters; it shapes our perceptions, and in turn realities.  Day by day, moment by moment, this principle becomes clearer in many ways.

Shannon (Live In Color blog co-editor) and I spoke recently about the weightiness of words. “You know Mel,” she said squarely, “we are word people. We really are.” When you are a lover of words, you are constantly wrestling with what you say, and taking in what others say.

Several years ago my husband and I sat in a crowded  auditorium, my niece’s excitement bubbled over; she pointed out her favorite Disney characters gliding across the ice. “Look Uncle Keston,” she exclaimed, grabbing hold of his hand. “Look!”

We smiled,  perhaps remembering how easily joy comes to us in childhood. And then, abruptly, another voice interrupted. “Shut up, you ugly little b*#%.” I turned around to see a young woman pulling at her toddler, hurling insults and laughing; Silently I wept for the little girl, her face, what I could make out of it in the dimness, filled with confusion and sadness. Her eyes seemed to whisper, “Why are you so angry?”

On days when I hear someone being particularly cruel, spewing vitriol and hatred, I am reminded of those incidents, and the lesson. Words impact us all. Forget that old-school rhyme:”Sticks and stones break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”

Grasping the enormity of what one says is deeply connected to awareness, stillness, sitting with your words after you say them. We can hinder or heal, empower or eviscerate the spirit of another living being.  Choose to use them in service of love and respect.

Two Ways to Watch Your Words:

1. Empathize – Yes, it sounds like a no brainier, but empathy helps us see the world compassionately. How do you like someone to speak to you? Do you enjoy being cut off, your words and thoughts discounted? None of us does, so consider that when communicating with others. We begin to see others perspectives, and our word choice reflects it.

2. Speak Solutions – Like most of us dealing with frustrations, I am guilty of saying, “I’m so sick of…” or “I’m tired of…” in an effort to relieve the tension. Lately, I am turning these words around and focusing on what I want to expand.  So, if you are tired of a particular situation,  focus instead on your solution.

Live In COLOR! – Emelda

How do you watch your words? Is it a struggle for you? Share with us!

 

Redirecting Energy

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Mother, wife, sister, friend, writer / blogger / creative organizer, budding photographer... These are just a few of the many hats I juggle each day. I believe creativity is oxygen for the soul. I created Live In Color blog to celebrate the beauty in every moment, from faith to inspiration and motherhood.And it is soon becoming Pray with Our Feet blog which will focus on the intersection of faith and activism. Follow the inspiration on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/praywithourfeetblog/
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“Wherever you are your mind put you there.”
– Carolyn Malachi, “Free Your Mind”

Life is often described as a circle, as we move through various stages, but it need not become an endless cycle. Recently a friend and I were discussing our frustration with a situation when she reminded me about the importance of redirecting energy. “Imagine what you are capable of if you shift all of this energy towards your dreams.”

I define the redirection of energy as a transformation of focus – instead of continuing to dwell in misery, shift towards promise and solutions. Frequently, when faced with dilemmas, we must ask this question: “What is the solution?”

This takes practice, and consistently managing our inner dialogue, as complaining comes naturally, but beginning those concrete steps toward change is arduous.

Become unrepentant in your will and
determination, accept responsibility for this current situation. Only when we become clear about our present, are we able to envision our future. Dr. Wayne Dyer’s powerful film, The Shift, asks viewers to consider a novel kind of movement in our lives, releasing the chase of status and embracing deeper meaning and service to others.

Redirecting energy is possible, and it begins now, in this moment, with us.

Here is how you can begin the shift:

1. Prayer & Mediation – I begin all of my solutions on this blog because without communication with God and quiet mediation, our minds remain scattered.

2. Replace the Language – Instead of saying “I’m tired of this” say “I’m focused on_________ (whatever the solution is for you).

3. Visualize – Visualize your victory! Close your eyes, slow the breathing, and visualize your intention.

4. Get out Your Pen – Write out that plan, begin with numbers if it helps. Define what redirecting energy means for you in major areas of life – health, career, relationships, etc.

Please share how you are redirecting energy in your life.